Alice’s Restaurant

February 6, 2007


Filed under: Day to Day Life, What Are You Reading? — aliceaudrey @ 8:48 am

I’m reading Ahead of the Game by Suzann Ledbetter which has the following passage (p.34) :

Hank just said she’d get back to dating in time.  Zoey replies “No, I won’t.  Not because I’m still hurting.  Actually, I feel guilty for not hurting – not to mention stupid, for not calling it quits a long time ago.  Like before the wedding, when I knew I wasn’t having cold feet but convinced myself that was all it was.”

I recently saw a YouTube video in which a woman cuts her hair right before a wedding because the hair dresser made it curly.  I know the feeling where the hair is concerned, but suspect she might also have had cold feet.  I had a case of cold feet the morning of the wedding, which was ridiculous.  We co-owned our house by then, and left for the wedding in the same car.

It got me to wondering about having cold feet right before you marry.  Is this common?

If you are married, did you have cold feet right before?



  1. My husband and I married almost 15 years ago. We had lived toether for almost 3 years at the time and had a child together. I don’t think that I had cold feet as much as I hate being the center of attention, and I knew that all eyes would be on me.

    No, no cold feet. I knew before we married that we were soulmates.


    Comment by fairiegreen — February 6, 2007 @ 9:05 am

  2. Not only were they cold, they were in deep arctic freeze. Duh, that should have been a HUGE warning that I was about to make a GIGANTIC mistake.

    And it was!

    Comment by Bev — February 6, 2007 @ 5:18 pm

  3. I had no problem with the thought of being married to Mr. Al. But something about the actual ceremony had me tied up in knots.


    Comment by aliceaudrey — February 6, 2007 @ 5:53 pm

  4. Marrying my first husband was a BIG mistake — I not only had cold feet, mine were with Bev’s in the artic. In fact, even my dad had cold feet! He made mention that I didn’t have to go through with it.

    I did, and I can’t say it was all regrets — my daughter is a blessing.

    My now husband — for us, dating was harder than being married. I had no cold feet until the florist didn’t deliver the flowers (what DO you DO with your hands if you don’t have flowers to hold???) Luckily my best friend spotted the flowers at the reception hall in the hotel they were staying, put them in her car. Super Linda to the rescue!

    Comment by Pam Skochinski — February 7, 2007 @ 11:07 am

  5. I definitely didn’t have “cold feet.” Like Faerie, I’d describe my wedding day jitters more as performance anxiety. I certainly didn’t have a second’s concern that I was making a mistake in marrying my husband, and 17 years later, many of my worst nightmares are still the ones in which I for some reason marry someone other than my husband (like one of my exes; yikes!).

    I think it’s very normal to be nervous about the ceremony and doesn’t mean anything bad at all. I think if you are nervous about *being married*, it’s the sign of deeper problems and you probably ought not go through with it!

    Comment by Jacqueline Barbour — February 8, 2007 @ 9:35 am

  6. I had cold feet, but only because it was pouring rain on my wedding day. Other’n’at, nope.

    Comment by Sara — February 8, 2007 @ 6:03 pm

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